Comments on Being a CD and some advice for others CD

I believe I am a cross-dresser, in the UK the term would be transvestite.  I am not a transsexual, transgendered, a she-mail.  I do not have a mental illness; I do not have a dysfunction, and I am not seeking a cure from the pleasure I receive from cross-dressing.  There is nothing wrong with a man who dresses as a woman for whatever reason he has, call it escapism, or just plan stress decrease.

Yes, I am married. No she does not know I cross-dress, meeting others for sex.  I am unlike most cross-dresser who or heterosexual and do not dress to find six, just the pleasure looking like a woman.  For me Cross-dressing is a hobby. It is something I can think about during the day, to get my mind off work.  I think about shopping, buying makeup, and dating.

I am a part-time Cross-dresser that likes to dress as a woman and experience sex with Cross-dresser, other women and me. I do not want to be a woman; I do not stay in dress as a woman all day every day.  Nor am I interested in sex with men, unless I am dressed as a woman.  Many men started Cross-dressing at an early age, pre-teen or as teenagers. When they are adults, they suppressed the desire to dress.  I am not as the many others Cross-dresses, I started Cross-dressing five years ago on more of a dare from a man who said he wanted to seem me in panty hose.  Well, I put on a pair for him who was so tuned on by rubbing his cock between my legs; it led him to cut a hole in the panty hose and bending me over.  It took me a while to gathered my girly things, stockings, garter belts, panties, bar, corset, finally a wig and makeup.    my first makeover last year and now consider myself passable.

I am an active as a Cross-dresser but still in the closet.

Clothes & Makeup makes the woman.

I belong to a couple of Cross-dressing or Transvestite web sites.  I enjoy reading the forums and providing some advice on a subject like makeup or shopping.  I have such an interest in Cross-dressing that I have downloaded many articles on the subject.  So much data I now have organize the data in a User Manual for CD. I also like writing erotic stories about my sexual meetings and some fiction.  I now have a blog site that I try to post something of importance.

cindyusa58.blogspot.com

It is the pleasure of others that I dress.  I like to ask the man what they would like to see me in, dress like a slut, a whore, a sissy, a casual woman on the outside and sexy underneath. Admirers, likes to see me in short skirt, high heels, stockings, panty hose, silky blouse.    Since I am a newbie at Cross-dressing, I like to give advice to beginner Cross-dresser.  First, my advice is to join a Website that you can few member profiles, their pictures, post to forums, receive and send email, and other social-networking features.  Look at other CD or TV pictures and start paying attention to your details. See what other CD or TV is doing to be convincing or passing.  There is a time and place for the outlandish makeup that you would see on Drag Queens.  The least makeup is the best makeup for a cross-dress.  I travel with two makeup bags, and a suitcase of my Cindy clothing.  When I travel is the only time that I can play dress up.

I do like to meet Admirer, but they have several bad habits.  Admirer seems not to be able to meet at the appointed time.  Admirers think that we CD have nothing to do but lie around the house or hotel room all-day waiting on them to grace us with their presence.  I have found that some Admirers are not interested in what you look like as long as you have a willing mouth or backside.  Most of the time when you meet an Admirer, you end in a position where they are not looking into your face.   The long hours of putting on your makeup can be a waste for some meetings. I keep smaller wardrobe allowing me to mix and match my outfits.  I have found the best place to buy my outfits in Goodwill.  

Meeting others, Risk Management

The most exciting thing about being bisexual is meeting others, but that can be a dangerous also.  Arranging a meeting, a date, a no strings attached tryst with a stranger is not without risk.  There are a weirdoes out there that might want to do you harm you could be blackmailed with a threat to tell your friends or family about your extra activities.  I advertise my availability on Cross-dressing web site or on Craigslist.  My first contact with someone is by email.  I also have a second who take prepaid card to keep the minutes charge.  The paid up phone is not registered and untraceable. I exchange email, photos and we communicate gaining a good understanding on what the other person needs.  We will exchange phone number and chat one-on-one.  If he is not willing to give out a phone number, then moves on to the next man.  When talking to someone on the phone you can usually tell if they are sincere and more importantly, if they might be dangerous. It is not foolproof, but I have not met someone who wanted to do me harm.

I have no age limit need but most of the men I meet are younger.  I do not look for young men, but they find me and I am to say to know to a 21-year-old jock that wants to get his rocks off.  What I do not like are the time wasters and there is a no-good way to weed them out.

Meeting admires is plagued by time wasters; men who send you emails or call you up on the phone looking for a meet but never show. They either chicken-out or just get excited looking at your pictures and talking to you. Nothing pisses me off more than getting all dressed up and sitting there waiting for the phone to ring to pass on the address where we will meet and then ending being stood up. It takes me from one, to one and half hours to transform into Cindy.  Therefore, to all you time wasters out there look at my pictures and have a jack off; do not call me for a meet unless you want to!

Once I feel comfortable with admirers or CD, I will arrange for a first meeting, always at my place of choosing.  I have a discrete place to meet or will rent a hotel room.  I also simply meet if I am going all the way with someone.  It is not worth renting a hotel room and at most giving oral.

I at no time meet an Admirer at his place because I would have to drive dressed, and I am not set for that challenge.  I also never give out the address of the met until I am dressed and set to receive the date. I have the date call me to exchange the necessary information.  

I lead a busy life and only can dress as Cindy on rare occasions, I am not available for dates who have not arrange days if not weeks in advance.

Some Cross-dressers and Admires to like to meet in a public place like a bar or cafe first, and I can understand why.  I never meet Admirers, unless I am fully dressed and in made up.  I am lucky that when I am Cindy, I look nothing like my male counterpart.  I never ever, ever, ever meet an Admirer, unless I am Cindy.  I do not wish to meet him in public by chance.

 I have met other Cross-dressers at their place though, and of course.  I would have to show up as a male. In this case, the other Cross-dresser takes most of the risk at first, so I do not mind. My advice to closet TVs and CDs, which have not met anyone but are wishing to do so.  Do the best you can to ensure your safety. Know discretion and sincerity of the other party before you meet; especially when meeting male Admirers for the first time.

Sex with Men, Women as a Cross-dresser

Cindy has had many intimate meetings with men, woman, and other Cross-dressers.  There is nothing more exciting than meeting someone watching them unzips his pants or lifts her skirt.  I am always surprise and excited about what I am to receive.  It can be small or big, think or skinny, cut or uncut, black, yellow or white.  In addition, for those who enjoy, there is nothing more erotic than kissing another Cross-dresser. Sex with another Transvestite is my favorite; I also love to be treated as a woman by mature male Admirers. I think the other reason men likes Transvestites is the adage that "men know what men like" is true. Transvestite's dress and wear makeup the way men fantasies that women should, and Transvestites know exactly how men like to be turned on and how to satisfy them; well, in my humble opinion, anyway.

Top or Bottom?

When meeting someone for the first time I always ask if they prefer to top or bottom. I prefer to bottom. Transvestites usually like to bottom, but when Transvestites are together are usually compatible and will often change roles from top to bottom and back during a sexual meeting.  I am a total bottom; my cock does not get hard when I want to so I cannot top. I get to refer to my sex organs as a "my man clitty" or "my ass pussy" or "mangina". When I meet men, I play the submissive role they will 'top from the bottom' if you know what I mean (that is they remain the dominant partner) even when being fucked or performing fellatio.

Kissing Sucking and Fucking

I love kissing; it is just the best foreplay! However, some admires prefer you on your knees or on all fours, there goes doing your makeup. I do get off in heavy petting and kissing before engaging in sexual activity. Even those men I have met who were having their first time with a Transvestite have enjoyed kissing me. A word of warning here to beginners, always ensure you shave as close as possible before applying your makeup when you are about to have a meet. Nothing is more off-putting than kissing a Cross-dresser with a 5 o'clock shadow; make sure that you get every hair removed off your face, especially around lips; run your fingers all around your face, and if there is any rasping at all, shave again. In addition, for trim your nose hair!

Fellatio is the stock-in-trade for most Transvestites; I will not bore you with techniques, as most of you will have your own tricks. I like to 69 of course, but I sometimes find that being sucked interferes with my concentration when I am sucking. My favorite position is, like any good girl, on my knees sucking a hard cock and looking lovingly up into my lover's eyes. Most Admirers love this and will reward you with a mouthful. Another position Admirer likes, are when they lying on their back while you straddle them. They can look up your skirt while you suck them. If I am with another Transvestite, I prefer to take turns giving oral each other rather than 69.

I love it when the other person comes! Yes, I swallow. I also love it when my date comes on me; I love it over my face and love to see semen spattered on my skirt and  

Being a bottom is not for everyone.  It can be painful depending on the top.  A man with much more than seven inches can be a pain in the ass if he does not go slow, and use lube. The truth about being a bottom is it is ecstasy!  Once you have a cock in your, lube and not too large, you would love being used that way. You can come while being fucked without even being touched down there; in fact, sometimes I come almost straight away and then again a second time if the fucking lasts a while; I don't even have to be hard! I always make sure I am clean down there.  If I am not, the meeting is off.  My preferred position is on my back looking him or her in the eyes, although a good dose of 'doggy' in front of a mirror is also a real turn on. I also like to ride him sitting down or to be taken from behind while standing and leaning over a chair or table. Oh, let's just face it; I just love to be fucked any way I can get it!

Group Sex

I have had the pleasure of several group sex meetings at both Transvestites only, and Transvestites and Admirers parties. Group sex parties are not easily arranged but are well worth the effort. The good thing about having many people engaging in sex is that you can experience all those fantasizes that us girls dream of: sucking two cocks at once, sucking a cock while jacking another, giving and receiving oral pleasure,; the list goes on and is limited only by your imagination.  

You can have a party that last all afternoon or evening where attendees are arriving, cumming, and leaving where others are arriving. The party progresses with each person sexual wish and so there is someone always getting tagged that you can watch or join in.

Of course, there is some risks involved in-group sexes, especially when meeting Admirers for the first time, but the risks are mitigated when there is more than one Transvestite present (there is safety in number's girls). My preference is to meet in a big hotel room and for the girls to get there first. That way, I can dress, makeup (again you note my rule of never meeting Admirers, unless I am dressed and made up), ensure I look as feminine as possible and have a drink and a natter with the other girls before the Admirers arrive.