First Time Cross-dressing or I did not know I had a disorder

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CindyUSA

First Time Cross-dressing or I did not know I had a disorder

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I am not sure if I should be embarrassed, ashamed, depressed about my condition. For years, I knew I had this condition but did not think it was anything to be a worry. No one could tell if I had a sick. To my wife, family and co-workers I seemed normal. In the beginning the symptoms of my illness was not apparent. As my condition progressed I kept it a secret. For years, I worried that my illness would be discovered. I did not think my condition was serious, but I wanted to keep it a secret.

My secret was I like to dress in woman clothing. I did this for years without any consideration that there was something wrong with my actions. Last year just for grin and giggles I Goggled, Cross-dressing disorder. Psychology Today said cross-dressing escapades was an illness atypical for bipolar disorder.

Bipolar disorder leads to extreme behavior and extreme sexual behavior is a symptom. Hypersexuality it is called and it "may include decreased inhibitions or a need for forbidden sex" as stated in About.com. It doesn't matter is if it is cross-dressing, sadomasochism, prostitution, compulsive sex, pedophilia or rape. On the internet I could find only three or four articles that dealt with the subject. 

The encyclopedia of mental disorders stated another term for tranvestic fetishism is cross-dressing. In the mental health professional’s handbook, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorder, fourth edition, (DSM-IV-TR) groups tranvestic fetishism as a paraphilias.

Paraphilias are a group of mental disorders characterized by obsessional with unusual sexual practices or with sexual activity involving nonconsenting or inappropriate partners.

Yet another article said,

One of the hardest concepts for many people to comprehend is that "sex" and "gender" are distinct and separate. For the majority of humanity individual gender identity and behavior is synchronous with apparent physical sex. A more simplistic way to put it is that "sex is between the legs; gender is between the ears." For the individual with Gender Identity Disorder physical sex and psychological sex (i.e., "gender") are in some degree of conflict. Because this often leads to peripheral psychological disturbances and a general unhappiness with one's life, this condition is sometimes alternatively referred to as "Gender Dysphoria." Dysphoria being the polar opposite of "euphoria."

Despite the inclusion of gender disorders in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Illness (DSM-IV) and its counterpart International Classification of Diseases (ICD-10), these problems are rather confusingly NOT considered "mental illnesses" by the medical community. It should also be noted that the publisher of the DSM has not explained why gender disorders fail to meet their own definition of "social non-conformity."

My secret was I liked sucking cock and eating pussy. That makes me a bisexual. Bisexuality has not been considered a mental disorder or dysfunction. My disorder or dysfunction was related to a little fetish that I developed. My fetish was dressing in woman clothes in order to met men for sex. Yes, I was a cock-sucking, sissy, slut, fag cross-dresser.

I wanted to find out more about my condition and went to a local University in California that has a Bipolar Disorders Clinic. The clinic was part of the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences School of Medicine. The clinic offered treatment, manage clinical trials and neuroimaging studies, lecture and taught seminar courses.

Bipolar disorder leads to extreme behavior and extreme sexual behavior was said to be a symptom. My dressing was called hyper sexuality, "may include decreased inhibitions or a need for forbidden sex." Cross-dressing was included with sadomasochism, prostitution, compulsive sex, and pedophilia.

Transvestite dresses for two different reasons. First reason was to seek to intensify sexual excitement during intercourse. The second reason someone cross-dresses was associated with a gender identity problem. I dressed for the first reason. I had to admit I achieved sexual excitement by cross-dressing made me me a transvestite.

In many surveys and research has determined Transvestites were not necessarily homosexual. The surveys reported many transvestites were straight men who enjoyed only meeting females. One surveys estimated that 80% of are heterosexual having no desire meeting a bisexual or gay man. This leaves only 20% of Transvestites who are bisexual or gay and enjoying meeting other for adult role-playing. I considered myself in the 20% of Transvestites.

My fetish started when I was an adult in my 50s. I was a bisexual when for the first time I dressed to meet a stranger for sex. Craig's       list was an excellent place to post a personal advertisement no strings attached meeting. I posted to the personal section for erotic encounter, male4male, in Orlando, Florida. My post was short and to the point,

53 married white male seeks male to give head, nothing in return.

A few days later I received an email from a stranger from San Diego.

His email stated, "Hi my name is Ray 35 straight white married, and will visit Orlando in a few weeks. I saw your post on Craigslist and wanted to to meet you. I am a straight man and looking to receive oral and not giving oral. I just need my cock sucked. Hope that you would OK for you."

Craigslist Casual Encounters section (where people go on to meet with strangers and have anonymous sex) was a good place for meeting strangers from the Internet. I took the time to exchange emails with the stranger to make sure he was serious about meeting. Exchanging a few emails allowed me to ask and receive answers making sure we had the same interests, me dressing and him an admirer. 

I responded, "Ray's thanks for your email and interest. I am interested in meeting you. I am fifty-three years old, 5'-10" and 210 pounds, about twenty-five pounds heavy but not fat. I am clean-shaven, short gray hair, glasses. I would like to make sure you are OK with my age and my height to weight, Roger.” I have talked with many men on-line; some had issues with age or with being overweight. Some men are seeking a 'Ten' to let them suck their cock. I like to think I am a 'Three' to 'Five', on a 'Ten' scale. I might not stand out with admirable looks but many men said I gave excellent oral service.

I like meeting men and being their fantasy. Many straight, married men like to receive oral intercourse. With their eyes shut, they do not mind if it is a male or female giving them head. I am also a man and think I know what men like, a blowjob and then cumming in a warm, wet mouth, swallows the other person your load. I offer a man a service, free. I will suck their cocks, and they climax in my mouth then tell me to swallow.

Rays next email back said, "Roger, I do not care about your age or your weight; I need someone to suck my cock. My motel room will be available on Friday evening. Do you know any transvestite? My fantasy is to meet a chick with a dick." Asking if I knew a Tranny was a strange question. It sounded like that Ray wanted a threesome.

My next email to Ray, "Ray I do not know any she-males, but I can check around and will let you know. If I found a chick with a dick, I would like to suck her off or maybe bend over and get fucked by one.”

Ray responded, "Roger I did not know you were a bottom. What would be really hot is to fuck the She-male while she blows you, then watch her fuck you as you blow me."

Ray and I were exchanging several emails daily. After exchanging phone numbers, my phone rings at work. Ray was calling me. First question after hello, Ray said, "Do you swallow or spit?” That was a direct question from Ray, but I understood why he was asking.

I responded boastfully, "I like letting a man shoot off in my mouth and having him tell me to swallow his load." By the sound of his voice, he seemed pleased with my answer.

Ray continued, "Good; I am a straight man, and not interested in sucking any cock. I like the sound of your posting you are what I need." Ray continued his questions; he asked, "Did you find a chick with a dick yet?" I received his email last late last night and had not started looking for a Tranny.

I responded, "No, not yet; I will check Craigslist today. You know that most, she-males charge money. I am willing to split the cost with you."

Ray scoffed, "No, not fine. You need to find a chick with a dick to meet us, and one who does not charge. I fancy seeing the Tranny sucking your cock; I take her from the rear. Then I would like to see her cock fucking your man-cunt." Ray was graphic about what he wanted. From our conservation, it appeared the sight of a man in woman clothes turned on Ray.

Remembering a few years back, I met a man and a Tranny for some wild, passionate sex. If Ray wanted a threesome, I was going to make that happen. After Ray's phone call, I started my search on Craigslist for a chick with a dick. I found several in the local area, sending them all an email. The next day, I received an email from Crystal, a thirty-five-year-old transvestite with silicone breasts. Crystal lived about thirty miles from the town I lived. Crystal provided her phone number to call confirming our meeting arrangements. When I called her, it rang six times, and I wondered if I had the correct phone number. Finally, when someone answered the phone, I said, "Crystal, Roger."

Crystal answered in a low, soft whisper, "Oh, hi sweetie; so good of you to call. What can I do for you?"

Not wanting to catch her at a bad time, so I asked, "Crystal, is this a good time to talk?"

Crystal replied, "Sure Roger; I just got out of bed and fixed my first cup of coffee."

The conversation was going as planned I continued, "So, are you OK meeting Ray and me on Friday night?"

Crystal stretching her words said, "Oh yes sweetie; both of my holes love to be filled."

I was excited about having a threesome with Ray and Crystal. I had one question I needed to ask but was not sure how to put in in words, I blurted, "Crystal, do you charge when you meet someone?"

Crystal replied, "Oh no sweetie; I am always free."

I was glad Crystal was not a professional. She was what Ray was seeking. I replied, "Great Crystal, Ray and I are not looking for a professional, just someone who likes to meet men and indulge in some fun."

Crystal responded, "I love having fun, and with the two of you, there are more possibilities. I am versatile. You two meet me at my place." Crystal said with a playful sound in her voice. Crystal continues, "Now Ray is the straight guy who wants to fuck me, and you are a bottom that likes to give head?"

I responded, "Yes that sums it up, and I also like to give head."

The meeting was scheduled for seven PM at Crystal's house on Friday night. I sent Ray a text message giving him Crystal's facts. She was thirty-five TV, 40D, seven inches cut, versatile.' Crystal provided a photograph that showed that she has large silicone boobs and a male member, a chick with something extra. Ray was all excited about meeting Crystal. The plan to meet as threesome was set.

On the Thursday evening, Ray called saying, "Roger, bad news; my meeting has been postponed. I am now arriving on Monday."

I said, "No problem Ray, I will reschedule."

I called Crystal to update her on the change of Ray's arrival date. She apologized, but she was going to be out of town on Monday and could not change her plans. I called Ray back, and I told him, "Ray; Crystal will be out of town on Monday night. She cannot change her plans. It looks likes is going to be you and me."

Ray, in an upset and loud voice, said, "Roger, you will come up with another, she-male."

Taken aback from his outburst and demand, I said, "I have tried I cannot find one available. I did find one, but she wants two hundred dollars an hour.

I moved to the mirror on the wall saying, "No shit," but I could not see the red brassiere.

Ray laughed saying, "Do not worry Roger; I was just kidding. However, you are a real turn on with your sissy things. You are a good cock sucker not you are a good cocksucking bitch." The humiliating words stung. Ray continued, "Feeling your nylon clad legs rubbing my cock, and the lap-dance, wow. I just needed that sweet ass of yours. I hope you did not mind, slut." I looked at a Ray; he had a silly smile on his face. I responded, "Yes that was kind of hot. That was my first time to give a lap dancing. You felt good inside me, but you did not use a condom." Ray admitted, "Yes, I bought one and intended to use it, but you were so hot in the pantie hose; I just could not wait to fuck your ass. I hope you do not mind I am clean."

I scolded, "You should have used a condom if you were going to shoot in me. However, I am clean too." As I said this, I could feel his man juice ooze out, and entered the bathroom to clean up again.

I received a text message from Ray, "I want to meet you tonight."

I sent a text message back, "Sure, what do you fancy me to wear this time?"

Bait and Switch

The story was posted on my blog. I read the story and discovered too many grammar issues.  I took the time to find a editor and used several grammar programs to help make corrections.  I am posting here to ask for help in providing comments to make the story read better.  Please send your comments to cindyusa58@yahoo.com

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Bait and switch II

Cindyusa

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This a short story that  was about what I told a stranger from an online adult chat room, it could influence your real life.  We think we can sit in the privacy of our home chatting with strangers about our personal lives and think we are safe.  I was a little naive about the dangers of chatting and posting with strangers about  my actual sexual fantasies.  I would go online and just for kicks go to cross-dressing chat rooms to engage others on the subject.  I told strangers, I enjoyed cross-dressing in the privacy of my home.  I mentioned I was a closet cross-dresser; admitting I liked dressing as a woman.  Like most married cross-dressers, I was a heterosexual with sexual fantasies of men forcing me to give men oral sex.  I would tell men I met in the chat rooms that I would like to be the center of attention of a gang-bang.  

My chatting with men online was all harmless fun.  Some of the men I chatted with online were admirers[and they tried talk me to meeting them.  I would cybersex online telling them how I like to give oral sex and that I was a virgin bottom waiting for a man to take my cherry. 

One night I was chatting with an admirer.  We chatted about cross-dressing and about other topics.  I had an interest in stereo sound systems and mentioned in one of my conservation I was in the market for a Cary SLP-98P tube pre-amplifier.  The stranger did not know much about stereo equipment and changed the subject for lack of interest.  The stranger changed the conservation from talking about stereo equipment to talking about my cross-dressing fantasies.

A few days later, Craigslist there was a posting to sell a used Cary SLP-98P tube per-amplifier like the one I wanted to buy.  I sent an email reply asking for more information about this per-amplifier.  The person who placed the advertisement responded saying his name was Bob.  Bob responded telling me the price and giving me his address.  We made an appointment to meet the next night, which was Saturday.  When I arrived at his address, there were four cars parked in the driveway causing me to park in the street.  Bob met me at the door showing me to the den where there were three other men watching college football.  One man asked if I wanted to join them for a beer. 

At that moment, the phone rang and Bob excused himself to answer the call.  I did not want to be unfriendly in front of the strangers and accepted a free beer.  We watched the action on a 52” big flat screen TV.  At a commercial break, one of the men switch the ball game to heterosexual porn movie.  The men watched the porn movie until the PIP showed the game was back in action.  They watched the game until the next commercial when the porn was again showing].  The men watched the porn saying they liked that girl’s tits, that woman’s pussy, or how they would like to lay that slut.  The conservation seemed harmless.

I waited for Bob to finish his phone call before I could ask him about the per-amplifier.  I half-finished with the first beer when one of other men gave me another.  We sat watching the porn with each man commenting about how his wife did not suck cock often.  One man said his wife would suck but not swallow.  One man admitted he loved anal sex, but the wife would never let him try anal.  I did notice the more the men talked about the porn, they all had budges.  I noticed one of the men rubbing his cock discreetly.  I thought if I were alone, I would give him oral.  I would love to drop my knees and give them service.  Not knowing these men, I would be embarrassed being watched giving oral.

I waited for Bob to finish his phone call.  After three beers, I was feeling a buzz.  The porn switched to transvestite porn.  Everyone hooted at the man dressed in woman clothes and said they always wanted to see someone dressed.  They called the cross-dresser on the screen a fag, queer, and a gay cocksucker.  The men made statements similar to when the woman were on the screen.  The first man commented, “I like to bend her over a chair.”  Another man said, “Look at the size of her breasts, hum more than a mouthful.” Another man chimed in saying, “Wow can she suck a cock or what.”  I realized I was in a room with four horny men who were aroused at the sight of a cross-dresser.  I wished that I had my CD clothing and had set up this party but I did not. 

Part of me wanted to buy the Cary SLP-98P tube per-amplifier and leave.  Part of me enjoyed watching Tranny porn and listening to these men tell me what they wanted to do with a Tranny.  Bob returned to the room and asked me to step into the living room where I presume we were going to discuss the per-amplifier.  I had several beers and was a little tipsy.  Entering the living room, I noticed placed on the couch a selection of woman clothing.  I saw short dresses, low cut tops, black stocking, red panties, matching red corset, everything one would need to play dress up.  I noticed makeup placed on the end table.  It seemed strange to see woman clothing laid out on the couch.  About this time, I realized, Bob knew I was a cross-dresser.  I realized Bob must have been one of the men I had chatted with online, knew I liked to cross-dress, and knew my fantasies.  He told me I had two choices.  I could leave or make one fantasy come true. 

He told me to dress like a good girl then meet him back in the den.  He said some of the clothes were his wife’s and the other men had brought the others; wanting to see me model that clothing.  I staggered into the living room thinking about making a run for the door.  The sight of women’s clothing outfits draped on the couch distracted my eyes.  The front door was no longer my desire.  I wanted to try on the outfits.  I wanted to feel the silky underwear next to my skin.  I wanted to look like a woman.  I fantasized dressing and pretending to be a woman for men. 

I asked myself was ready to be a slut for a group of strangers.  After drinking a few beers with them, watching porn, they were just horny married men who wanted a little fun and excitement.  Under the influence, I thought about my choice of action.  Dressing up for four men who were clearly hot and horny for a cross-dresser or should I leave.  On the other hand, I could drive home drunk and risk a DUI.  It did not take long to decide.  I really wanted to stay and suck my first cock.  I might never have his chance again.  Clearly, Bob and his friends planned this little meeting, and it was not a spontaneous meeting.

I started too undressed, putting on the stockings, panties, corset, short skirt, blouse, wig and makeup.  The stockings were black  thigh high and one size fits all.  There were red four-inch heels in size twelve, which fit me just fine, I wondered how Bob knew.  The corset had black with red bows; the short skirt was blue denim and a dark color blouse with ruffles down the front.  On the coffee table, I found a blond wig.  I dressed, looked in the mirror and smiled.  It took me another 30 minutes to put on my foundation, eyed liner, lipstick, and mascara.  I looked into the mirror knowing in fifteen minutes, my makeup would be a mess.  The men would care less what I looked like as long as I was sucking them and they were fucking me.

I walked into the den where the men had dropped their pants and they were just wearing shirts.  I saw one man sitting on the couch jacking his cock.  I looked sexy in the stockings with the suspenders showing.  The skirt was short that just covered my bottom.  The blouse was button down the front that I had half button revealing the corset.  I had a shoulder length blond wig and full makeup consisting of blue eye shadow and ruby red lipstick.  When I entered the room, I walked slowly swaying my hips from one side to the other.  The heels made it difficult to walk made my legs look long and put rear high giving me the image of being a woman.   

When I walked into the room the men stopped and stared, no one said a word.  I worried they would laugh at me and just say I was a man in a dress.  The men could be angry, my tits were not real or I had never done this before.  I was just about to turn around and run out of the room when one man whistled his approval.  The other men hooted, clapped, and made me feel welcome. 

The four men were well behaved; each waited their turn to have fun with me.  I wanted the men to have a chance with me at least once; or twice if they liked me.  The evening highlight was two men fucking double penetration both came at the same time.  By the end of the game, I was messy with cum on my face, breasts, and clitty.  Bob asked me if I was mad, being invited over to dress.  I said no, I was surprised at first, but being as a slut and to provide a needed service was rewarding!  I asked if I could return for the Super Bowl.  Bob responded yes; told there might be twice as many men attending.

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WARNING: This story contains unsafe sex.  Currently, it is just plain stupid to perform unsafe sexual acts.  This story is for entertainment, not to be imitated, be smart, and take care

of your body, you are only issued on per lifetime!    

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Anal sex? How to prepare yourself

I have copies and pasted information about how to have anal sex, at least about how to be clean before you try to be a bottom.

Cindy

How I Prepare for Anal

WARNING: This page is about how to clean the shit out of your ass for anal sex - it might be a bit too graphic for some people.  Also, this is what I do - I’m not recommending you do it.  I am not qualified to give medical advice or know what all the side effects might be for everyone.

Usually I really enjoy anal sex and sometimes I can’t even cum without anal stimulation.  I am not into scat and if I even suspect I might be dirty it really turns me off.  This is what I do to clean my ass for anal sex.  If you have any other tips let me know and I’ll add what I think are the best ones to this page.

How I clean my ass depends on what will be happening.  First, if I know I will be doing anal sex I try to poop at least a couple of hours before.  Also, I always use the “finger check” immediately before anal.  I literally put my finger in my ass and pull anything out that I find.  If it’s soft or I can’t remove it with my finger then I use an enema.  The enema will remove the soft stuff and might leave more solid stuff, which I remove with a second finger check. (I warned you it was going to be graphic).  The downside is that water is left behind and most lube is water soluble - in other words a very raw ass if too much water is still there.  I hope it goes without saying that you should wash your hands very well after this.

If I am having anal sex with only one person then I don’t need to do anything else, but if I am doing a gangbang where a lot of guys will be fucking my ass or I know the guy is really big (especially really thick) then a more thorough cleaning.  All those cocks pumping my ass creates a vacuum that will pull shit down.

My preferred method is to drink magnesium citrate.  It’s used before major surgery or colonoscopy to clean out EVERYTHING.  I try to use this at least 24 hours beforehand, but if necessary just the night before.  I take it on an empty stomach and then drink a big glass of water.  And then stay very close to the toilet for the next several hours.  Several lit candles (or a bonfire) and a gas mask are a good idea, too.  To put it bluntly this stuff makes you shit your brains out.

The reason I try to do this at least 24 hours beforehand is that small, sharp, undigested food can get caught at the asshole and they will make anal sex hurt (for me, not the guy).  Doing this a day in advance gives everything a chance to come out on its own and for my ass to settle down.  I still do a finger check just beforehand, too.

The other option, which I used to do, is modify my diet.  Two days before I eat only salads and foods high in fiber.  I drink protein shakes and lots of water.  I’m trying to get calories while using natural laxatives that won’t produce a lot more shit.  Then the day before I don’t eat, only drink clear liquids, and do a couple of enemas (one in the morning and another that night).  The day of I eat light, but still more on the liquid side (protein shakes work best for me).  And of course, I do a finger check just before.

I think you can see why I prefer the magnesium citrate.  I am a carnivore.  I love meat.  Steak and potatoes are the perfect food and I like my steak rare.  Practically starving for 3 days so a group of guys can fuck me in my ass kinda sucks.  But I try to be an obedient little slut for my Husband and he likes to see my ass gangbanged. :D

As for the actual act of anal sex - use lots and lots of lube.  Sometimes I can do anal with one person without lube (how it happens I have no idea), but in general lube your ass and lube the cock and don’t be afraid to re-lube often.  Then it’s all about relaxing.  A lot of times I need a cock to enter my ass and thrust slowly for a while before I loosen up.

I hope people found this helpful.  I apologize for being so graphic, but there’s no polite way to explain this.

THE CLEANING: 

Sure you can get away without cleaning, but don't be surprised if you get more coming out than going in if you don't clean. Usually you can tell if somethings coming up, but I will say that on more than one occasion me and my boyfriend have had to stop midway because of the unpleasant idea of ...well, s**t (we're all, presumably, adults here, we can handle this I hope.) So cleaning is more than just recommended or encouraged, it's an implied must. 

So what to do? What posters around here have said is all good...most of it. 

If you have one of those bidets or shower heads that you can remove and hopefully use while sitting in the toilet that's perfect, it's less messy, but you really have to ignore to the best of your ability that you will see something. It's not a clean experience. It's not looking at a Monet or a Van Gogh. The quicker you build your mind past that, the quicker you get used to the experience, and thus the quicker you can spice up your sex life or make the curiosity of anal sex as an occasional fun practice (I admit to having opted out of it from time to time, but mostly out of laziness.) 

You can even buy a pack of latex gloves to make sure you get really clean. Yes. I'm saying to go in there. It's sanitary if you keep the gloves CLEAN, it's safer and it will even get you used to the experience. Then when you're clean and you know that you're clean you can even use your bare fingers (clean them!) to experience what that feels like. Make sure your nails are short or not sharp or jagged, and if you decide not to cut your nails you will always be able to have a good control of what part of your finger you're using - and you should be using the front of your finger not the VERY VERY tip. Generally speaking, it's not the "in and out" motion that does the trick, it's a rubbing around. I, of course, do not have a vagina, but I can't imagine that during female masturbation, you don't use your hand as a jackhammer. Be gentle. It's skin for god's sake. And it's sex, rough or not, there's a conscious, healthy limit to the quick and the hard. 

And as for soaps - just no. I did once use Summer's Eve for an extra clean feel, but I stopped eventually and really it never made any more of a difference. IF you decide to use this, and I only recommend anything that's like Summer's Eve (hypoallergenic and all that stuff), be spare and use small amounts. Still the soap is not an imperative practice, but it does give a feeling of being cleaner. 

Now for the feeling of water in your anus - it's a bit unpleasant. Your rectum and colon will harden and push out. Normally they push up against something, but when they push against themselves they create a very strong sensation inside you. It's bearable, but definitely not a good preview to anal intercourse. If you find that you can make it through that, then good for you. If you feel this is too much of hassle, it is very understandable. There are plenty of other ways to engage in other sexy taboos, and it's fine if anal is not your thing. 

Afterward I always rub some Vaseline OUTSIDE of the anus, just a bit. Also keeps from any sweat that might build up. Skin is skin, anywhere you go, if you clean too long before the action goes down you might not smell great. It's nice to help this out. Even some creams will be nice, but nothing that has alcohol as it will dry you up. I did however once use Chanel No. 5 (Mademoiselle herself would turn in her grave) and it had a strangely arousing scent for my boyfriend. 

And another tip in response to the person who said to starve yourself or the mentioning of only milk products: really? I mean I generally make sure I don't eat much before having sex - anal or not. It's just not a pleasant feeling to be all bloated from eating and then start thrashing around with your man - you know, if you're into that - so I agree, don't eat before it, but don't starve yourself. I have had hours worth of sex with meals that have been down to almost 2 hours apart once I feel that I can move normally again. 

Don't do anything wilder than a decent cleaning, if you're going to do it at all. No need to starve yourself. 

Also it helps that if you are cleaning with a douche or something alike, you empty out what you can at first. Once you see the coast is clear wait. Stand up, walk around if you must and wait till some of it keeps moving down. It's a process. Look up a picture of the colon and you'll understand. 

I always do this before I shower, and with the rest of my shower activities it takes me up to an hour but it has taken me a little under 45 minutes before, with successfully clean sex following. It also really encourages bowel movements so digestion is faster. It's always good to go to the bathroom as many times as you eat (if you eat three meals a day, you s**t three meals a day) that way you have as little toxic residue leftover inside you. It's generally healthy, so there are benefits to this other than an other worldly orgasms. And so we segue into it. 

Gloves for Anal Hygiene and Quick Clean Up

Wearing a latex, vinyl or nitrile glove is a simple way to keep everything clean and easy to clean up. Vinyl or nitrile glove are great for anal stimulation. They feel smooth and soft on sensitive skin, and when you are finished the gloves can be stripped and disposed of easily. Make sure you take the time to find gloves to fit the person giving the massage- the touch will feel much better when the gloves fit taut against the skin. Latex is a developed allergy, degrades over time and can cause uncomfortable reactions in the sensitive tissues of the anus. Vinyl and nitrile are only a few pennies more per glove, and offer better protection.

An Internal Rinse : Enemas and Anal Hygiene

If you would like to rinse internally, you have a few easy options. If you are trying an internal rinse, do so at least fifteen minutes before you engage in anal play. A disposable bulb enema is quick and easy. Fill the bulb with plain warm water, gently insert the nozzle into your anus and squeeze the bulb, immediately allowing the water to rinse out. Repeat several times, or until the water runs clear. Never use hot or cold water- aim for wrist-temperature warm. Make sure you release all water – linger for a few minutes and completely relax to make sure everything is out of your system.  Never use a vinegar solution, soap or anything other than plain water. Larger enema bags are not required for anal hygiene, and may cause discomfort. If you are interested in receiving a full colonic enema, it is recommended that you see a professional or do additional research before trying it at home. If you ever feel cramps or discomfort, stop your enema immediately and allow the water to pass.  2 tablespoons of salt is alot IF you consume it through out the day. However when taken in one hit with the one litre of water it comes out ur arse in about half an hr with all the shit up there! Your body wont absorb the salt. This is from the lemon detox diet so it's not some unsafe untested backyard remedy. IT"S SAFE!!!

 

QUESTION
I am wondering what the best way to clean myself out before anal sex is. I know it's best to be empty inside before sex but I’m afraid that there could be something still in there that could make a mess.

ANSWER
Most resources suggest running cool water in your butt prior to sex to help you empty out and feel cleaner. There are attachments that can be placed on the shower that run a hose to a tube that slides into you. Once you are full of the water, you can release it into the toilet. You can also use an enema bag easily found in most drug stores. Try to avoid using douche products. The chemicals in them aren't helpful to the cleaning out process for sex and can actually encourage you to have a bowel movement sooner. In some cases, they can weaken your anal membranes, making you more susceptible to certain STDs.

Cleaning out your rectum for simple hygeine or in preparation for sex can be done in less than 5 minutes. You should defecate first and then clean out, whenever possible. You can go to the drug store and buy a simple Fleet for under $2 and keep the plastic bottle for later use. The contents of the Fleet contains phosphorous which you may use or dispel in the sink for tepid water. Fill the sink with water and then fill the plastic bottle. You may notice that the tip of the Fleet is lubricated for easy insertion. Now, take the filled, plastic bottle, sit on the toilet with legs spread, insert the tip in the rectum, hold the tip with the sphincter muscles, and squeeze the bottle until most of the water over 2/3 of the contents is in the rectum. Hold the water in and wait at least 15 seconds then slowly dispel the water with a gentle push. Look at the toilet water to see if it is clear. Repeating the process is necessary until the toilet bowl water is nice and clear. Small drips may occur and confidence builds when you know your rectum is nice and clean. You may want to have an attachment to the shower nozzle, but this may not preserve privacy. Your roommate may question it or anyone visiting you needing to use the toilet may know you're into guys. This above procedure is general, and if your anus is loose to begin with, you may need to adjust your procedure as necessary. Your gentle partner may appreciate your rectum to be "well lubed" but you know it's only water lining the walls of your rectum, and it's nice and warm and clean, friendly to your guy's masculine penis. No lube in the rectum is necessary. If you want to use a lubricant for deep penetrating play, do not use Vaseline, though you may not feel it, Vaseline is known to be an irritant. If you use a lubricant within the rectum, especially if it is not water-based like Crisco, be sure to clean out well, after play -- very important. An attachment to the shower nozzel may be necessary to rinse out well. You may want to try Vitamin E with Aloe in some sort of oil instead of Crisco. Good luck, be happy, be safe, always!