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BDSM – What Is Erotic Humiliation?

 “BDSM” stands for “bondage, domination, sadism and masochism.” This is just a universal term for many different styles of kinky sex, including fetishes and role-play, as well as less common activities such as erotic asphyxiation or erotic humiliation.

Erotic humiliation is the consensual use of psychological humiliation in a sexual context, whereby one person gains arousal or erotic excitement from the powerful emotions of being humiliated and demeaned, or of humiliating another; it is often, but not always, accompanied by sexual stimulation of one or both partners in the activity. The humiliation need not be sexual in itself; as with many other sexual activities, it is the feelings derived from it that are sought, regardless of the nature of the actual activity. It can be verbal or physical, and can be relatively private or public. Often it can become ritualized, and unlike some sexual variations, it can be easily carried out over a long distance (as online). The distinction between humiliation and dominance in an activity such as erotic spanking is that the sought effect is primarily the humiliation; the activity is just a means to that end.

While fantasy and fascination with erotic humiliation is a prevalent part of BDSM and other sexual role-play, relatively little has been written on it.  Humiliation play can, however, be taken to a point where it becomes emotionally or psychologically distressing to one or the other partner, especially if it is public humiliation. Erotic humiliation can become extreme enough to be considered a form of edge play, which some consider may best be approached with advance negotiation and use of a safe word. This is a highly subjective issue, and depends greatly on context.

Depending on whether someone has a dominant or submissive personality, the act of being humiliated or humiliating another during sex can be very arousing for both partners. Rarely does a person enjoy both humiliating and being humiliated and many sexual partnerships are formed because one partner prefers domination while the other prefers submission.

Humiliation play is also connected to sexual fetishism, in that non-sexual activities may become sexualized by association with arousal, and also may be associated with exhibitionism in the sense of wanting others to witness (or being aroused by others witnessing) one's sexual degradation.

For some people, activities such as name-calling are a way of achieving ego reduction or getting over sexual inhibitions. For example, between gay people, terms usually associated with homophobia may be used, such as faggot, slut, bitch, whore or cocksucker.

The Difference between Humiliation and Domination

Many people may confuse erotic humiliation with domination and other forms of BDSM, because the roles are very similar. There is, however, a simple distinction between the two. Those who enjoy dominating others enjoy “commanding” or “ordering” their submissive partner to do something, and the submissive partner enjoys being “commanded” to do something. With humiliation, the dominant partner enjoys verbally or physically belittling their partner, and the submissive partner enjoys being belittled and humiliated just as much.

Cross-dressing and erotic humiliation

Men dress in woman clothes for many different reasons.  One reason is to attach attention of men.  A small amount of cross-dresser are bisexual and desire to meet admires or other cross-dressers for sex.  The cross-dresser can either be dominate or top or submissive or bottom.  Some cross-dressers can switch and be either.  Men a man plays the part of a woman by cross-dressing he is looking to be treated like a woman, but that treatment can be from both extremes.

One extreme you are a lovely woman, wife and desire to be treated with respect and terms of endearment.  On the other extreme, you can be considered a loose woman of low moral and then you are a slut, whore or bitch and are treated in the fashion.

This verbal name-calling is a form of erotic humiliation, which both parties enjoy.  The top dominate is exerting his power the bottom.  To be called a "fucking bitch" may sound degrading but it is a compliment to hear in the middle of oral or anal sex.  The top may even ask if you agree, "Are you my cum slut?"

Where you can reply, "Yes, I am, I need to be yours, tell me what to do?"  This verbal exchange can increase the physical sexual activity actually cause the climaxing of one or the other or both.

Sometimes a dominate can whisper a word to a submissive and they are turned without any physical contact.  Remember not all cross-dresser desire erotic humiliation so treat them as the woman they look and desire to be.