Ron was enormously opinionated

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Ron was enormously opinionated


Ron was opinionated about everything; despite any number of facts to the contrary, he would never admit he was wrong. Every Saturday night I would meet my friends Ron, Bob, and Rich in a sports bar to watch college football. My name is Matt. I was not sure who mentioned the subject of cross-dressing, but Ron said, “All fucking, cock sucking cross-dresser are fags and queers.”


Bob and Rich laughed at what Ron said, with Bob chiming in, “Yea, but they have tits. Chicks with dicks. Yahoo!”


Rich sounded in on the subject, “Yea, a cross-dresser is a man who likes to eat, drink, and be Mary.”


Bob smiled and added, “What’s the biggest crime committed by cross-dressers?” Pausing for affect Bob said, “Male fraud.”


What was said made me mad. These guys were my friends, but they were wrong about cross-dressing. I should know, I am a crossdresser. In the United States today, crossdressing is considered a taboo, an activity that people joke about. I did not know how to react to the stupidity of my friends. I could just sit there and pretend to laugh or leave.


Ron added this joke, “A man told his shrink, ‘Doctor, I had the worst dream of my life last night. I dreamed I was with twelve of the most beautiful chorus girls in the world, blondes, brunettes, redheads. All dancing in a row. His psychiatrist interrupted, ‘Hold it, Andy. That doesn’t sound so terrible.’ ‘Oh yeah?’ replied Andy, ‘In the dream, I was the third girl from the end!” All my friends laughed.






The group was doing well, next Ron said, “I don’t believe men should be allowed to parade around in our society in female clothing. I know that all the men who cross-dressing are gay fucking queers. They should be charged and taken to court for doing so.”


I had enough of these crappy jokes. I could not keep quiet any longer I was going to tell Ron off. However, maybe I could provide some facts about cross-dressing to educate my friends.


I spoke up with authority, “Ron, I read that cross-dressing man is usually not gay, and most cross-dressers are married. Some resources report that 70% were in a heterosexual relationship. than 10% of cross-dressers consider themselves bisexual, or homosexual. The stereotype that cross-dressers are gay comes from the false assumption that femininity exists to serve masculinity. Let us assume the reason women wear dresses, makeup or heels is to gather the attention of men. Within this sociological sexist framework, people can assume any man who dresses as a woman is doing it to gain attention. Of course, this isn’t the truth at all.”


Ron, Bob, and Rich all stared at me with a questioning looks on their faces, but no words came out of their mouths. My statement caught All my friends off guard. No one said anything for a second. I felt it was necessary to add, “It's factual that occasionally women do dress up to impress a man. Most time women dress to look pretty for themselves, to feel better about themselves, not to impress one another. Cross-dressers are the same; they dress because it sensations excites them and not necessarily to attract the attention of men.”


Ron swanks, “Good! Matt looks who knows all about queer men dressing up in woman’s clothing.”


My temper was rising with the stupid words coming out of Ron’s mouth. I had to reply and point out, “Ron, you would be amazed how many successful men are closet cross-dressers. Coming out is hard to do in our society, because of all the common misconceptions the public has about men expressing their feminine side. reports that 5% of the adult male population have cross-dressed.”


Ron did not like being made to look stupid. He said, “Everyone knows, Hoover was in the closet, so cross-dressers must be pretty fucked up to want to be a dress and look like a woman.”


Someone must put Ron in his place and I could not hold my tongue. Again, I had to correct Ron’s misunderstanding, “Cross-dressers may dress for erotic reasons, they may dress because they like the feel of female clothing, or they dress because they wish to go out dressed as a woman like one of the girls. wish men as sexual partners. They are regular men when they are not dressing up and they do not want to be a woman full-time. Dressing up is purely an expression of their feminine sides. Most cross-dressers are ordinary men who discovered a feminine character in their personalities. They need to transcend the narrow stereotypes mandated by conventional society”.


Ron would not stay quiet and blurted, “Ordinary men, expressing their feminine side, my ass. I heard that cross-dressers have an illness and cross-dressing can be cured.”


I know that what Ron said was a misunderstanding people have about men that cross-dress. I had to tell him the truth about cross-dressing and responded, “Ron cross-dressing is not an illness and since it is not an illness why would there be a cure. No treatment is necessary as cross-dressing is not considered an illness.”


Ron commented, “Well you will never catch me in a dress.”


What a comeback Ron I thought. I was like mad and I looked at Ron in the eyes saying, “Cross-dressers come from all walks of life, races, creeds, and economic backgrounds. The cross-dressing dates back many thousands of years. In some cultures, especially some Native American tribes, they were highly respected as shamans. Most cross-dressers are well educated and come from conventional family backgrounds. The clear majority are heterosexual, and most are or have been, married. Most are happy in their masculinity, and only a small percentage opts to live as women full-time.” I was pleased with my response and debating with Ron.


Ron said, “If a man cross-dresses and the wife catches him it is grounds for a divorce.”


I was doing well and corrected Ron again, “Cross-dressing is rarely a cause for divorce. A couple can compromise by granting time for the activity. Usually cross-dressers stay married. Most differences can be worked out to the satisfaction of the couple.” I was thinking, I should know because when my wife discovered that I cross-dress she wanted to understand why I would do such a thing. It took awhile but she understood and accepted my cross-dressing fetish.


Ron could not accept the facts I was providing and had to say, “Cross-dresser are perverts. Who in their right mind would want to cut off their dicks to look like a woman?”


I had all the facts because of the research I did to figure out why I enjoy cross-dressing. I also had facts about cross-dressing when my wife and I sat and worked out her accepting me being a cross-dresser. Again, I could not remain quiet and said, “Ron, come on now. A large majority of cross-dressers do not identify themselves as transsexual or identify with being born into the wrong body. For most cross-dressers, their feminine feelings and expressions are limited to wearing clothing, makeup, and wigs.” I was doing well my counter to Ron’s negative statements and continued, “Unfortunately the society we live in dictates limited roles for both males and females. Some guys grow up resenting this, much the same way that some girls grow up resenting wearing dresses and choose to never wear them. times, people, like many women, are exhausted by their prescribed role in society. They just want to find some balance between expressing something different from masculinity.


Ron said, “I just cannot understand why a man would start cross-dressing.” Ron must have been tiring in this conversation or was honestly open to my comments.


“Ron,” I respond, “Cross-dressers usually start dressing up a child or in their teens. In a small number of cases the desire to dress can start later in life.”


“OK, Matt” Ron rebutted, “You are so smart, why do boys start to cross-dress? If I caught my son cross-dressing I would spank him. ” Good Ron,” I responded to his question, “Probably out of a sense of childlike curiosity. Some cross-dressers may have had sisters or a babysitter who may have dressed them up as girls either for fun or punishment. With some cross-dressers, the dressing is purely a fantasy. Dressing can relieve the stress involved in living up to the perceived male role model as a tough, problem solver. Pretending to be a girl may provide him with a release from male peer pressures. Many times, cross-dressers will start dressing up in lingerie or silky clothing, like pantyhose or stockings purely for the feeling of the fabrics on their body. Cross-dressing often will progress over time to include dressing up, applying makeup and wigs, even mimicking female walking, and talking.


Ron questioned, “Matt are you telling me that a boy can start to cross-dress, quit for 40 years then starts to cross-dress again?”


By now I had a few beers and realized I was vocal about my belief. I was disturbed by what Ron was saying. He was spouting off at the mouth and did not have any facts, just heresy. I stated, “When a man reaches the mid-twenties or later, social and economic pressures start to surface. Children, a mortgage, car payments, and education worries can play a role. Undoubtedly, the biggest cause of a man’s stress is through his job. The pressures of family life and the decrease of sexual activity as his marriage matures can contribute to his cross-dressing. Life stresses can build up, causing the deep memories of his cross-dressing past to resurface. He will start to cross-dress again to relieve his stress and the daily pressures.”


Ron said, “His wife, family or boss should tell him to quit.”


I know what Ron was saying was wrong, I know I had tried to quit but found that I was depressed when I tried to quit cross-dressing and was the happiest when I was dressed. I responded, “This is probably the worst thing anyone can do. Forcing them to stop and purging their feminine side could have disastrous outcomes. Most likely he would binge later as the cross-dressing urge would be even stronger. Besides, the pressure will still be there and could lead to violent breakouts or emotional distress. There is no “cure” for cross-dressing, and most cross-dressers do not want one!”


Ron was still not listening, and he responded, “Well if my son or someone I knew was a cross-dresser I would force them to stop.”


At this point, I had to state, “Because of possible stress from families, jobs, and friends, many cross-dressers’ fetish is shrouded in secrecy. Burdened by fear and guilt, some cross-dressers deny their feminine side and purge all their clothing. Cross-dressers are further stressed by eliminating a significant part of their personality. Eventually, they return to feminine self-expression by decreasing their stress. Some seek therapy, but as many therapists are not knowledgeable about cross-gender issues, they sometimes find themselves educating the therapist rather than getting the help they seek. Nor are psychiatric drugs of benefit.”


I wanted to go on, but Ron and Bob needed to go. I had my limit of beer and need to sober up before driving home. Rich and I started to drink coffee. Bob was the designated driver for Ron, so they left.


Rich and I were now alone at the bar. The conversation was down to just Rich and me. Rich asked, “Matt where did you learn all that information about cross-dressers? You sounded so educated on the subject.”


I smiled at Rich saying, “Rich my friend, can you keep a secret?” Rich nodded his head. “Rich, I am a closet CD. I have been cross-dressing since I was twelve. I stole my cousin’s panties and started to enjoy the thrill of underdressing. The feeling I received, the feeling of women's clothing next to my skin was heightened by the feeling I get from the possibility of getting caught.”


Rich asks, “Matt what about your wife Sara, does she know?”


I told Rich, “Yes she knows but is not as encouraging as I would like. She does not let me wear her clothing but will buy me a few outfits to wear. I underdress and have a collection of women’s panties I wear. Some are what are called sissy panties, they are full cut, made of silk, or satin and have lace and bows.


The look on Rich’s face showed surprise at what I was saying, “Damn Matt, you have me horny. Sara actually buys you clothes to wear then plays dress up?”


I have not shared my secret with anyone. I was feeling relieved talking to Rich and was feeling boastful and said, “Rich, my sex life has been wonderful once Sara embraced my feminine side. When we have sex, it is more passionate than when I am not dressed. Making love to her was as if we were two women, two lesbians having sex.”


Rich was leaning my direction, listening to my every word. He said, “Matt, your lucky dog. So how did all this happen?”


I briefly told Rich how and why I started to cross-dress, “Started when I was twelve and needing something to jack off with. I stole panties from my cousin and jacked off with them. I stole panties and a bra but had to hide them. I rode my bike back home wearing underdress and was so excited by feeling the material next to my body I shot off in my pants. I had a wet spot on my shorts and almost got caught by my best friend.”


I continued, “I almost got caught by my neighbor and when I went to the emergency room. I know they knew I would dress in panties and bra because they gave me more things to play dress up. I met a nice lady at the Mall in the department store who gave me a corset, stockings and a wig.”


Rich asked, “Did you have sex with them?”


I understood Rich’s question was a misconception about a cross-dresser, “Rich, the only sex I had was with me. My cross-dressing has been just for me and I need to release my sexual tension. You know when you are a teenager you would experiment how many times you can jack off, or wanted to see how far you can shoot your load. I did not think of sex with others, never entered my mind then.”


Rich was on his second cup of coffee, was wide-eyed and had so many questions to ask, “So no one discovered? Did your parents know?” He hesitates then asks, “Have you ever been with a man?”


These questions, I was wondering if telling Rich was a good idea, “Rich, my life as a cross-dresser has been a secret. No one I know knows and I hope suspects. My mother knew about the panties, but she never found the other I items I was given. At least she never said anything. I never asked, she never told. As for being with a man, when I was in college I became curious. I had some wild times. I had this term paper for which I had to do research. The only way to complete the research was to dress up and pretend to be a woman. I have sucked a few cocks and been fucked too.”


Rich responded to my last statement, “No way. You mean you are gay.”


I responded by saying, “No Rich, I do not want to marry a man. I like sex and it does not matter if I am a man or a woman. I am bisexual.”


Rich paused a moment then asked, “Do you have any photos of you when you are dressed?”


I love posing for photos and posting them on my Flickr site for others to enjoy. I gave Rich a link that he used to bring up my photographs on his smartphone.


For the next five minutes, he stared at his phone, using his thumb to scroll between photographs. Finally, Rich said, “Damn Matt, your pictures made me horny. I would never have a guy suck me off, but I think I could if it were a cross-dresser. Do you have any cross-dressing friends that I can meet?” “By the way, what is your cross-dressing name?”


I respond with just one word, “Cindy.”


I was not sure where this conversation was going and if I wanted to go there. I have met several men at bars who first I met online then agreed to meet to see if they wanted me. This conversation was like the others but now I was talking about my secret fetish of dressing with a friend. The friend who knows my wife, where I worked and now that I was a cross-dresser.