http://pintutorials.blogspot.com/2013/12/32-makeup-tips-that-nobody-told-you.html
This is a good picture tutorial for make up tips
Thursday, December 26, 2013
How Too Cross-dress web site
http://www.tgtoday.com/howto/howtobasics.shtml
This site is posted by TGr Today and is a very complete site for all Cross-dressers
This site is posted by TGr Today and is a very complete site for all Cross-dressers
Crossdressing Basics
When we were too young to obtain wigs, we used mop heads or scarves. We didn't require any makeup because we were twelve or under and looked more female than male anyway. Mother's or sister's shoes may have fit because our feet weren't fully grow. Also we were smaller in stature and girth, so dresses we sneaked out of the back of someone's closet would either fit or be large--much better than being two or three sizes too small. Those were the days.
Most of us have had plenty of experience at dressing. We all have our special little tricks, and during conversations with other transgendered, every once in a while I hear of something I haven't considered. So, I thought it might be interesting to go through the steps from the beginning for those who are having some difficulties. And for those of you who have some new or different ideas: write me, and I will share with others. I will get to the neck and face later, but will concentrate on the part below the face first.
Before the clothing, before the underwear, and before the padding: just skin and hair.
Wednesday, December 25, 2013
Crossdreamers
http://www.crossdreamers.com/2008/01/readers-guide-to-confessions-of.html
Good link to a series of articles
Good link to a series of articles
A Reader's Guide to the Crossdreaming and Autogynephilia Blog
This blog is about men who dream about having a female body, and women who dream about having a man's. Crossdreaming is actually much more common than you may think.This blog is for those who are trying to get to terms with such desires and others that might find the topic interesting.
Here are some essential blog posts to get you going:
The autogynephilia theory
The term autogynephilia was introduced by the psychologist Ray Blanchard. He defined it as "a man's paraphilic tendency to be sexually aroused by the thought or image of himself as a female". Crossdreamers do definitely exist, but his explanation of the phenomenon is problematic, to say the least. The following posts discuss the theory in a critical way:
Autogynephilia on a Napkin (A popular illustrated presentation of the topic)
Autogynephilia defined (A presentation of Anne Lawrence and her use of the term autogynephilia)
Autogynephilia: The Dark Side (On why the autogynephilia theory meets so much resistance in transgender circles)
Beyond the Perversion (More in depth discussion of the Blanchard theory)
Here are some essential blog posts to get you going:
The autogynephilia theory
The term autogynephilia was introduced by the psychologist Ray Blanchard. He defined it as "a man's paraphilic tendency to be sexually aroused by the thought or image of himself as a female". Crossdreamers do definitely exist, but his explanation of the phenomenon is problematic, to say the least. The following posts discuss the theory in a critical way:
Autogynephilia on a Napkin (A popular illustrated presentation of the topic)
Autogynephilia defined (A presentation of Anne Lawrence and her use of the term autogynephilia)
Autogynephilia: The Dark Side (On why the autogynephilia theory meets so much resistance in transgender circles)
Beyond the Perversion (More in depth discussion of the Blanchard theory)
Beyond the Binary (On autogynephilia and evolutionary science)
Dr. Charles Moser's critique of the autogynephilia concept
On how American psychiatry persecutes transgender crossdreamers and crossdressers
Dr. Charles Moser's critique of the autogynephilia concept
On how American psychiatry persecutes transgender crossdreamers and crossdressers
Cross Dressing Movies
List of cross-dressing movies, the one I like the best is #9
Cross Dressing / Gender Bending
1982-Present
(Movies where it's at the forefront, excluding animation and documentaries.
Crying Game excluded as well because it wasn't promoted as such.)
(Movies where it's at the forefront, excluding animation and documentaries.
Crying Game excluded as well because it wasn't promoted as such.)
How to cross-dress steps
How to Crossdress
Edited by Mooshpitmatt, Zack, Glutted, Ben Rubenstein and 28 others
Cross-dressing is the act of blurring the aesthetic gender lines by wearing clothing traditionally worn by the opposite sex. Men can dress to look like women, while women can dress like men. While there is no right or wrong way to cross-dress, this article can be used as a guide through the complicated process of switching your gender through the garments you chose to wear.
This is a very basic article but has good steps on how to cross-dress MTF and FTM
Tuesday, December 17, 2013
Cindy's make over with Lois
Wednesday, October 9, 2013
FAQ for wives
I
need to understand why. Crossdressing FAQ's
for Wives
for Wives
by Laura Amato
Q) OK so why does he crossdress? Aren't I enough woman for him?
A) First of all this is not your fault. In fact it really has nothing to do with you, though it will affect you. This has been with him for a lot longer than he's been with you.
Q) So when did he start dressing up?
A) He probably started dressing as a child or in his teens. In a very few cases it can start later.
Q) Why did he start?
A) Probably out of a sense of childlike curiosity. With some, their sisters or a baby sitter may have dressed them up as girls either for fun or punishment. With some it is purely a fantasy. Dressing can relieve the stress involved in living up to the perceived male role model as a tough, problem solver. The slightest deviation from
this role may lead to a feeling of temporary inadequacy. Pretending to be a girl gives a release from male peer pressures. When the dressing is completed the CD feels much calmer and more able to face his role.
Q) Is there sex involved?
A) Yes In the beginning especially as a teenager experimenting with self gratification. Probably less as a crossdresser grows older to being nonexistent by middle age.
Q) We're very close. Why didn't he tell me before we were married?
A) Crossdressing often times slows down as one grows into their twenties. Diminishing to partial dressing or stopping completely in what is called Purging. New loves and relationships make dressing quickly fade into the background and stop completely making the CD even think they are cured. This is most likely when you met.
Q) Why did his dressing come back?
A) In the mid twenties and later socioeconomic pressures start to surface. Children, a mortgage, 2 cars, and education worries can contribute. Probably the biggest factor though is his job. Career matters at work intensify as peers are promoted even including him. Pressures of family life and loosing the newness of a relationship all
contribute. Don't forget that socially at least most men feels the buck stops with them and they often take complete responsibility for many problems.
Q) OK so why does he crossdress? Aren't I enough woman for him?
A) First of all this is not your fault. In fact it really has nothing to do with you, though it will affect you. This has been with him for a lot longer than he's been with you.
Q) So when did he start dressing up?
A) He probably started dressing as a child or in his teens. In a very few cases it can start later.
Q) Why did he start?
A) Probably out of a sense of childlike curiosity. With some, their sisters or a baby sitter may have dressed them up as girls either for fun or punishment. With some it is purely a fantasy. Dressing can relieve the stress involved in living up to the perceived male role model as a tough, problem solver. The slightest deviation from
this role may lead to a feeling of temporary inadequacy. Pretending to be a girl gives a release from male peer pressures. When the dressing is completed the CD feels much calmer and more able to face his role.
Q) Is there sex involved?
A) Yes In the beginning especially as a teenager experimenting with self gratification. Probably less as a crossdresser grows older to being nonexistent by middle age.
Q) We're very close. Why didn't he tell me before we were married?
A) Crossdressing often times slows down as one grows into their twenties. Diminishing to partial dressing or stopping completely in what is called Purging. New loves and relationships make dressing quickly fade into the background and stop completely making the CD even think they are cured. This is most likely when you met.
Q) Why did his dressing come back?
A) In the mid twenties and later socioeconomic pressures start to surface. Children, a mortgage, 2 cars, and education worries can contribute. Probably the biggest factor though is his job. Career matters at work intensify as peers are promoted even including him. Pressures of family life and loosing the newness of a relationship all
contribute. Don't forget that socially at least most men feels the buck stops with them and they often take complete responsibility for many problems.
As the stress builds up he remembers that crossdressing always
relieved pressure in the past. Why not now? He dresses and it works, the stress
is relieved and so is he.
Q) Is he Gay?
A) No, not usually. They are men at all other times when they are not dressed.
Q) Does he take hormones and want to change his sex?
A) In almost all cases no. In very few instances do men advance unless they are latent Transsexuals. That warrants an entire different set of FAQ's.
Q) Can I make him stop?
A) This is probably the worst thing you can do. Forcing him to stop and purge his feminine side could have disastrous consequences. Most likely he would binge later on with the crossdressing urge even stronger. Besides his pressure will still be there.
Q) So what can I do?
A) Plenty. Compromise is the key from BOTH parties. After all you are hurt and probably shocked. This is a lot to absorb. Realize that neither of you is to blame.
He is terrified right now of loosing you or that you'll tell someone.
Q) Is he Gay?
A) No, not usually. They are men at all other times when they are not dressed.
Q) Does he take hormones and want to change his sex?
A) In almost all cases no. In very few instances do men advance unless they are latent Transsexuals. That warrants an entire different set of FAQ's.
Q) Can I make him stop?
A) This is probably the worst thing you can do. Forcing him to stop and purge his feminine side could have disastrous consequences. Most likely he would binge later on with the crossdressing urge even stronger. Besides his pressure will still be there.
Q) So what can I do?
A) Plenty. Compromise is the key from BOTH parties. After all you are hurt and probably shocked. This is a lot to absorb. Realize that neither of you is to blame.
He is terrified right now of loosing you or that you'll tell someone.
Reassure him of your love. You are going to need to give him some time
to allow him to spend time at his hobby behind closed doors. Remember, it is a
stress reliever for him. If you don't want him
to touch your clothing tell him so. He needs to respect that but you will need to help him get his own things. Catalogs work for most if you don't want to shop with him.
to touch your clothing tell him so. He needs to respect that but you will need to help him get his own things. Catalogs work for most if you don't want to shop with him.
He may want to join a crossdressers club where he can dress
freely. You should find a support group where you can talk to other wives with
your same problem. If you've found a bitter group you are in the wrong place.
You need understanding, not militancy.
Q) What do I gain if I let him crossdress?
A) You actually both have much to gain. After so many years in the closet he is finally free to be himself. Benefits are less stress, better health, New found creativity, thoughtfullness and appreciation.
Q) What do I gain if I let him crossdress?
A) You actually both have much to gain. After so many years in the closet he is finally free to be himself. Benefits are less stress, better health, New found creativity, thoughtfullness and appreciation.
Q) What about my rights?
A) Fortunately there are guidlines for both Wives and
Crossdressers. It is called the Bill of Rights for
Wives and Crossdressers. Remember these are guidlines. They can be
added to or subtracted from. Everything is negotiable.
Q) Ok I've let him be himself now all he wants to do is
Crossdress.
A) Many crossdressers are compulsive by nature. Finally free to be
himslef new crossdressers often become like kids in a candy store. You may have
to nudge him back to reality. Simply state that you miss the man you love. Tell
him you'd like to see that man a little more often. If he has trouble have him
see a psychiatrist about anti-compulsion prescription drugs.
Q) What are our chances?
A) Very Good actually. It is rare for a marriage to end because of crossdressing. This of course not the case if your husband is really Transsexual
A) Very Good actually. It is rare for a marriage to end because of crossdressing. This of course not the case if your husband is really Transsexual
Good Luck.
Laura
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